A Letter from the Superintendent, Heartfelt sympathy

September 22, 2018

Dear Parents and Guardians:

It is with deep sadness that I inform you that Scarlett Cloyd, a 7th grade student at King Middle School has died over the weekend in a house fire in Boyle County. King Middle School staff and all who knew Scarlett are heartbroken over this tragic news. I know you join me in extending our heartfelt sympathy to Scarlett's family.

This loss is sure to raise many emotions, concerns, and questions for our entire school, especially our students. During this time, as the school community processes the tragic news and copes with grief, we will have counselors and school psychologists available to provide support to students and staff.

Included with this letter is information that our school psychologists have shared with our staff on helping children cope with loss and I thought it might be helpful to families as well. If you feel your child needs help dealing with this loss or if you questions, please contact one of our school counselors.

Mercer Co. Elementary Counselor: Stacy Charles 859-733-7040
Mercer Co. Intermediate School Counselor: Amy Riley 859-733-7080
King Middle School Sheila Burns 859-733-7080
Mercer Co. Senior High: Cynthia Russell, Steve Kidd 859-733-7160
Mercer Central/ Day Treatment Daphne Darkomensah, Stacy Price 859-733-7000

 Dennis Davis
Dennis Davis, Superintendent
Mercer County Schools

Helping Children Cope with Loss"© Copyright Mental Health America" September 24, 2018
mentalhealthamerica.net/conditions/helping children-cope-loss

The death of a loved one is always difficult. For children, the death of a loved one can affect their sense of security. Like adults, children express loss by grieving. Yet children may not demonstrate the grief in the same manner as adults. Preschoolers usually see death as temporary; between the ages of 5 and 9, children begin to experience grief more like adults. NMHA provides the following information for parents, educators and others who may help a child overcome loss.

Signs of Grieving in Children & Adolescents
• Sadness
• Profound emotional reactions-anxiety attacks, chronic fatigue, anger, thoughts of suicide
• Feelings of anger, denial, shock and confusion
• Extended depression with a loss of interest in daily activities and events
• Boisterous play Inability to sleep, nightmares, loss of appetite, prolonged fear of being alone 
• Withdrawal from friends
• Sharp drop in school performance or refusal to attend school
• Excessively imitating or asking questions about the deceased; repeated statements of wanting to join the deceased; inventing games about dying
• Humiliation or guilt over personal failure to prevent loss of life
• Frequent physical complaints such as stomachaches and headaches

Helping Children & Adolescents Grieve
Long-term denial of death or avoidance of grief is unhealthy for children and may resurface later with more severe problems. Here is a list of things you can do to help a child overcome loss.
• Children are concrete in their thinking. To lessen confusion, avoid expressions such as "passed on" or "went to sleep." Answer their questions about death simply and honestly. Only offer details that they can absorb. Don't overload them with information. 
• Children can be fearful about death and the future. Don't offer false comfort. Give them a chance to talk about their fears and validate their feelings. Offer a simple expression of sorrow and take time to listen. Children are repetitive in their grief. Respond patiently to their uncertainty and concerns. It can take a long time to recover from a loss.
• Children are physical in their grief. Watch their bodies, understand and support their play and actions as their "language" of grief. Offer reassurance.
• Children grieve cyclically. Expect their grief to revisit in cycles throughout their childhood or adolescence. A strong reminder, such as the anniversary of a death, may reawaken grief. Make yourself available to talk.
• Children need choices. Whenever possible, offer choices in what they do or don't do to memorialize the deceased and ways to express their feelings about the death.
• Children grieve as part of a family. Expect children to mourn the deceased and the environment that existed before the death. Children may grieve the "changed" behavior of family and friends. Keep regular routines as much as possible.

Help is available. Organizations and resources that can provide useful materials and referral information are listed below.
American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry. (800) 333-7636http://www.dacap.org --- professional membership organization of psychiatrists provides resources for parents and teens.
Center for Mental Health Services. (800) 789-2647http://www.mentalhealth.org/child. --- a Federal Government clearinghouse offering mental health English and Spanish language publications for families, children, and adolescents.
Dougy Center, The National Center for Grieving Children and Families. (503) 775-5683 http://www.dougy.org --- a national support center for grieving children, teens, and families.
GriefNet. http://www.grieinet.org ---an Internet community of more than 30 Email support groups and two web sites, offering a moderated chat room for children who are in grief and their parents, lists of books and other library information, memorials, newsletters, a directory of suicide prevention and survivors' information, and more. 
National Institute of Mental Health. (301) 443-4513 http://www.nimh.nih.gov ---the mental health research component of the National Institutes of Health, which provides printed and online materials.
UCLA School Mental Health Project. (310) 825-3634 http://smhp.psych.ucla.edu --- a resource center that provides schools and teachers with resources for helping children.

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